These are the things I have learned in my 39 years of existence on earth:
1. My mantra now is "ayaw mo, wag mo". You can't please everybody. People are entitled to their opinion, just need to respect it.
2. If you love someone, don't expect the same amount of love in return.
3. Love, respect and trust are the most important ingredients in any relationship.
4. If you're given a task, do it well.
5. If you're given any responsibility, be accountable for it.
6. Don't force someone to like/love you, if they really care for you, it will come naturally.
7. Be mature to face all types of challenges that come your way.
8. You learn things from your mistakes or from your past experience, treasure it.
9. Enjoy life the way you want to live it as long as you know your limitations.
10. Have a sense of responsibility.
11. Have high respect for your parents and you will never go wrong.
12. Have more faith in Him and trust Him for all the happenings in your life whether it's bad or not. Everything happens according to His will.
13. Help those in need even strangers.
14. Show respect to all the people you deal with.
15. If you feel like giving up, kneel down and pray. Only Him who can give you assurance that "everything will be ok".
16. I love it when I make my loved ones happy. Make it a habit to make others happy.
17. Don't forget yourself. Learn to love yourself.
18. Never doubt yourself that you can do anything with the help of Almighty Father.
19. Reconnect to your long lost friends. Treasure the friendship.
20. Share your blessings.
21. Have someone in your life who can be trusted of all the things you are going through. It relieves when you get to release the burden in your heart.
22. Have "me" time. Know yourself deeper.
23. Write the things you want in life. Your goals. Your dreams. Before you know it, you have achieved it already.
24. Be grounded. Be humble.
25. Have a grateful heart.
26. Focus on things you like to achieve.
27. Be kind always.
28. Try things out of your comfort zone.
29. Be a good listener.
30. Be vocal about your feelings.
31. If you are sad, let it be. Anyway, it will pass.
32. Look back to where you came from and be grateful to those people who have helped you become the person you are now.
33. Be patient to your kids. Let them play and enjoy their childhood.
34. Fulfill your long-time dream.
35. Always make yourself happy.
36. Be patient to all other people you deal with.
37. Always pray for His guidance in everything that you do.
38. Be sensitive for the feelings of others.
39. Learn things from others' past experiences.
I thank God for giving me the kind of life I have right now, for the gift of family, for being the person I am now. I pray for good health, more happiness, peace of mind, lots of love for me, my family, my friends and those who are in need.
Tuesday, June 27, 2017
Tuesday, February 14, 2017
Motherhood or Wifehood?
Motherhood is one of the best feelings I've ever experienced and still enjoying it. But most of the time, my patience always put to the test, given that I have 2 boys, still motherhood is a great feeling and very fulfilling. For me, the essence of being a woman is being a mother but wait....I think I was wrong.
Before I became a mother, I was a wife first. Being a wife to my husband is one of the greatest feelings I've ever had. Not all the time, we're okay. We fight, we argue, we fight, we argue, then we fight again and we argue again...hahaha. The best part of it is at the end of the day, we know how to say sorry, accept our faults, forgive one another. This is so natural for us to do as we do it out of love. We cannot let each other feel bad all the time. I am so blessed to have my husband in my life, he knows how to calm me down and comfort me.
Last night was the first time we didn't celebrate Valentine's day in our 10 years of being together. It was a surprise date, he called me in the afternoon to say that we're going to have our dinner together. To prepare for that, I left the office early enough to pick up my Kuya Kiel from school to finish our review session for his quiz the following day. I didn't foresee that our review will take time longer than I expected. Until such time, that the reservation for our dinner date was forfeited. Yes, my hubby reserved and paid for it already. So sad. I was torn between motherhood and wifehood. I was told before that my husband should always be my priority, next is my kids. Last night, I felt guilty about it. I just ruined my husband's plans to celebrate our Valentine's day. We're okay now and he said sorry too because of his reaction last night for what happened. I fully understand what he felt last night, I felt guilty about it. I can't leave my son at home saying that he is not yet ready for the quiz, so I chose to stay and taught him about the lesson.
I realized I should have prioritized my husband. I was amazed with what my husband did early this morning, he talked to me and said sorry. He fully understand my situation last night where I was torn between him and my son. He realized that what I did was okay. Now, I was too emotional how this guy can easily forgive me for what I did. God is really good to fill my heart with so much love from the people I love especially from my husband.
Thank you tatay for your never ending patience, love and care. Thank you for everything. I love you so much! This is for you, this is how we started. Love you tatay.
Before I became a mother, I was a wife first. Being a wife to my husband is one of the greatest feelings I've ever had. Not all the time, we're okay. We fight, we argue, we fight, we argue, then we fight again and we argue again...hahaha. The best part of it is at the end of the day, we know how to say sorry, accept our faults, forgive one another. This is so natural for us to do as we do it out of love. We cannot let each other feel bad all the time. I am so blessed to have my husband in my life, he knows how to calm me down and comfort me.
Last night was the first time we didn't celebrate Valentine's day in our 10 years of being together. It was a surprise date, he called me in the afternoon to say that we're going to have our dinner together. To prepare for that, I left the office early enough to pick up my Kuya Kiel from school to finish our review session for his quiz the following day. I didn't foresee that our review will take time longer than I expected. Until such time, that the reservation for our dinner date was forfeited. Yes, my hubby reserved and paid for it already. So sad. I was torn between motherhood and wifehood. I was told before that my husband should always be my priority, next is my kids. Last night, I felt guilty about it. I just ruined my husband's plans to celebrate our Valentine's day. We're okay now and he said sorry too because of his reaction last night for what happened. I fully understand what he felt last night, I felt guilty about it. I can't leave my son at home saying that he is not yet ready for the quiz, so I chose to stay and taught him about the lesson.
I realized I should have prioritized my husband. I was amazed with what my husband did early this morning, he talked to me and said sorry. He fully understand my situation last night where I was torn between him and my son. He realized that what I did was okay. Now, I was too emotional how this guy can easily forgive me for what I did. God is really good to fill my heart with so much love from the people I love especially from my husband.
Thank you tatay for your never ending patience, love and care. Thank you for everything. I love you so much! This is for you, this is how we started. Love you tatay.
Thursday, January 12, 2017
Random Thoughts
Why is it so hard for me to write here nowadays? I had so much thoughts in my mind but I wasn't able to put it here.
My thoughts are not organized. I feel like I am always nervous, I always worry for small stuff, I always have negative thoughts. When people do good to me, I always think it's not sincere or maybe she/he just needs something from me. Why is it always like that? Is this what you called "midlife crisis"?
From Wikepedia:
A midlife crisis is a transition of identity and self-confidence that can occur in middle aged individuals. It is a psychological and behavioral observation that commonly occurs with individuals between the ages 45-64. Its observations differ in a diverse manner for each individual. While some individuals may experience feelings of depression, remorse, and anxiety, others may experience feelings such as the desire to achieve youthfulness or make drastic changes to their current lifestyle or atmosphere.
What???!!! It occurs with individuals between ages 45-64... I am not even at my 40s... I think I need to change something with my lifestyle, with my relationship with God, with the people I love. This 2017, I target to achieve the following goals:
1. Have a strong relationship with God. I always forget to give thanks to Him for He is the driver of our lives. Everything in my life now is based on His will and He is in control of everything I have. I should treasure and enjoy the life He provides us.
2. Have a more quality time with my immediate family (tatay, kuya Kiel and Ethan). Whenever we're together, I should lessen being stressful dealing with them. I easily get irritated whenever things do not happen according to my expectations. This is too bad. I should control my temper and be more patient when dealing with them.
3. Have a healthy life. Tatay and I are not getting any younger, we should now push ourselves to have an active lifestyle together, we need to promote with each other to eat healthy food so we could also influence our kids to do the same.
4. Have a baby girl. I just realized that I think this is too late for us to plan to have a baby girl, I will be 39 this July. We should have planned it when Ethan was still 2 or 3 yrs old. In God's time, we claim that we will have that mini "Irene" this year.
5. Have a good disposition in life. Basically, I owe this to my hubby in which he taught me how to approach things that come my way. He has the right attitude towards different circumstances in life. I just love how he does it and I admire him for being focused in everything he does.
6. Have the means to provide for our needs. Not rich and not poor, just in the middle. At least we could provide our kids the lives that they deserve and at the same, have the means to share with the people we love and the people in need.
I claim that this 2017 will be a great year for all of us! God bless everyone.
My thoughts are not organized. I feel like I am always nervous, I always worry for small stuff, I always have negative thoughts. When people do good to me, I always think it's not sincere or maybe she/he just needs something from me. Why is it always like that? Is this what you called "midlife crisis"?
From Wikepedia:
A midlife crisis is a transition of identity and self-confidence that can occur in middle aged individuals. It is a psychological and behavioral observation that commonly occurs with individuals between the ages 45-64. Its observations differ in a diverse manner for each individual. While some individuals may experience feelings of depression, remorse, and anxiety, others may experience feelings such as the desire to achieve youthfulness or make drastic changes to their current lifestyle or atmosphere.
What???!!! It occurs with individuals between ages 45-64... I am not even at my 40s... I think I need to change something with my lifestyle, with my relationship with God, with the people I love. This 2017, I target to achieve the following goals:
1. Have a strong relationship with God. I always forget to give thanks to Him for He is the driver of our lives. Everything in my life now is based on His will and He is in control of everything I have. I should treasure and enjoy the life He provides us.
2. Have a more quality time with my immediate family (tatay, kuya Kiel and Ethan). Whenever we're together, I should lessen being stressful dealing with them. I easily get irritated whenever things do not happen according to my expectations. This is too bad. I should control my temper and be more patient when dealing with them.
3. Have a healthy life. Tatay and I are not getting any younger, we should now push ourselves to have an active lifestyle together, we need to promote with each other to eat healthy food so we could also influence our kids to do the same.
4. Have a baby girl. I just realized that I think this is too late for us to plan to have a baby girl, I will be 39 this July. We should have planned it when Ethan was still 2 or 3 yrs old. In God's time, we claim that we will have that mini "Irene" this year.
5. Have a good disposition in life. Basically, I owe this to my hubby in which he taught me how to approach things that come my way. He has the right attitude towards different circumstances in life. I just love how he does it and I admire him for being focused in everything he does.
6. Have the means to provide for our needs. Not rich and not poor, just in the middle. At least we could provide our kids the lives that they deserve and at the same, have the means to share with the people we love and the people in need.
I claim that this 2017 will be a great year for all of us! God bless everyone.
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